When I posted my rant on facebook last night about this tennis ladder bullshit I had had enough. I have spent so many hours on this topic this weekend, it’s like really embarrassing. 😱 But when you talk to people in the trenches across a whole grade and hear the stories of devastation and disappointment, as a human being and another mother with a heart ❤️you reach your breaking point. I will die for my friends. And I’ve had enough.
First of all there are very very few people who are willing to go on record in front of a large audience of people and tell the truth and defend their beliefs. ⚖️Second of all there are very few people who are Brave enough to shed light on uncomfortable topics and own their shit and admit things. 💪🏽 And I don’t care what you say, if you live here in Roslyn 🏡one time or another or several times you have questioned what goes on here❓❓❓, perhaps joked about moving and rolled your eyes in disgust 🙄and that’s a FACT PEOPLE. 😤 I am not someone who will be bullied and I will always stand up for what I believe. Do I get carried away with shenanigans from time to time. YES! Am I a part of it? Guilty. Are there a few things I’m not proud of? A couple. But I will always be honest and own my shit and I will tell you how it is because who has time to lie. I know what kind of person I am and your lucky to have me as a friend. And I KNOW I live with such integrity and have a huge heart and have compassion and empathy which is so so lacking here.
I have been extremely inundated with texts and emails today on this topic and I’ve been trying my best to reply back. It’s an awkward and sensitive topic. And truth is if you don’t live here in ROSLYN then please you don’t understand. And if you have little kids then please you don’t understand. And if you really really don’t care if your kid is included or has friends or is part of a large social event or you’re happy to drive them alone (more power to you) then please you don’t understand. I don’t have the energy explaining. Please stop. 😕
My thoughts are very jumbled right now and I don’t know what to do with them. 😖😠What I do want to say is thank you to those who have texted/messaged me and thanked me for bringing this to light. 👍🏽I know this strikes a nerve in MANY people because sometime
or another you have felt left out or upset or disgusted with where we live. 👺🔥I know I’m not alone. And I’m happy to give voices to those who don’t feel like they have one.🤐 I know this happens in every single grade. Do you hear me? Every single grade. So to my nursery school friends enjoy the good times while they last and while it’s innocent because one day you will think back to the time when you read this post and you will think “ohhhhhhh now I get it”. And you will have you own AHA moment. 💡Sorry to be the bearer of bad news it’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. So buckle up and enjoy the ride. Welcome to Mother Fuckin Panem, because you live in the Hunger Games.
For those who have asked but what happened Alethea? I don’t understand what is ladder? Who is mean? What makes a carpool? Why is one desirable over another? Who would leave out their friends? Can’t you count on your friends to save you? It’s all very complicated and lots of dynamics go into it. Sometimes it’s just a numbers game. Sometimes the moms are friends but the kids aren’t? Or maybe they used to? Or maybe the kids are friends but the moms aren’t? Maybe your geographically undesirable. There are a million things that go into it, but whatever it is, it brings the truth OUT. Some of it is ugly and some of it is eye opening. 😳And some of it is nice and surprising in a good way.😍 One way or another if you do participate then be prepared for anything to happen and I mean anything!
I am so thankful to have made AMAZING friends 👭🙌🏾 (and you know who you are) along the way here in this particularly difficult and uniquely scary place to live. 👹There are parts of Roslyn that are beautiful and I love to death.👌🏾 My friends are so important to me and I’m so thankful to have met Tanya along the way. Like a big sister who has been down that path before I welcome her perspective and she always captivates me. I love our deep talks we have and she is so smart. So without further ado…for your reading and enlighteningment (not a real
Word 😂) pleasure… welcome To the Roslyn Ladder Carpool…Tanya you are so Brave and admirable and you know I think the world of you! 🌍❤️